http://www.sowonderfulsomarvelous.com/2013/06/moms-when-are-you-going-to-learn.html
I could add a million things to this list. But when it comes down to it, I am happy with who I am. My kids are (mostly) happy with who I am. Most importantly, all of these things are things I worry about. I have a bunch of great friends. And none of them have EVER called me out on having a messy house, feeding my kids junk food, not being protective enough, needing to lose weight, wearing sweats to school events, never wearing makeup and generally being the polar opposite of stylish. And ALL of them are still my friends.
My house is never really clean. I do try to make sure there aren't piles of dirty clothes and diapers on the floor when guests come over.
I don't do awesome parties. Or if I do, I don't have time to take any pictures of it. But, I realized just this week, as I was stressing over Elf's fifth birthday party, this party is for four and five year olds. It doesn't matter if the cupcakes are store bought. The kids lick the icing off and throw away the cake. The parents are just glad someone else is entertaining their kids on a Sunday afternoon.
I don't have home cooked meals every night. My husband cooks. Or we go out. Or grab fast food.
For all of the things that I DON'T do, there are things that I do.
I don't diet, I need to lose weight. But I am the mom who has the full fat pumpkin cream cheese in her fridge that you lusted over in the dairy isle.
My kids don't get baths as often as they should. But they brush their teeth, get to bed on time, and have clean clothes.
I don't work out as often as I should. But I buy myself roller skates, and fill my bike tires so that I can play with my kids.
For everything that I am jealous of that my friends do or have, there is something else that others admire in me. No one can be everything. And while we can each try to be a better person, improve ourselves, we can't ever be EVERYTHING.
And I am ok with that.
